Friends in the faith,
There are those you know well, and perhaps even some reading this now, that will decry that this subject is even mentioned in Christian circles. “How dare you?” they bemoan.
Is that true that some folks say this?
And that very fact proves that the supreme enemy of the Almighty, Satan himself, has long ago declared war on the sacred act of monogamous, husband-wife sexual celebration. Sexual celebration is the #1 way a husband knows his wife is pleased with him and the world is as it should be.
Even unsaved pagans know the supreme value of the intense and frequent sexual celebration and the prime influence the wife has over the husband in this vital area of life. Dr. Marie Robinson, an eloquent unbeliever, writes about the substantial sexual frigidity of infrequent or clitoral only orgasm in western women and their power of sexual surrender to revolutionize their marriages. You may see this book here. In God’s world, gravity works for everybody as does all His loving gracious laws.
God is certainly no prude, to say the least.
Song of Songs 7:6-9 “How beautiful and how delightful you are, My love, with all your charms! Your stature is like a palm tree, And your breasts are like its clusters. I said, ‘I will climb the palm tree, I will take hold of its fruit stalks.’ Oh, may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, And the fragrance of your breath like apples, And your mouth like the best wine! It goes down smoothly for my beloved, Flowing gently through the lips of those who fall asleep…”
Many modern Christian teachers and pundits refuse to acknowledge the obvious instead opting for a confused and twisted metaphorical opinion that the Song is about Christ and His bride, His church.
Not so. It’s a romantic love story, saints. And it’s awfully explicit! Does the above verse and others in the Song sound at all about God and His personal bride? Of course not.
Saints, the open, honest, and anointed writers in the modern era have identified the verses in the Song of Songs that deal with sex. Praise the Lord! And they identify those dealing specifically with oral sex.
Song 2:3 (The wife is acting upon her husband) “Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.”
Song 4:16 (The husband is acting upon the wife) “Awake, O north wind, and come, wind of the south; make my garden breathe out fragrance. Let its spices be wafted abroad. May my beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits!”
Song of Songs 5:1 “I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh along with my balsam. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk. (God then speaking to the husband and wife as lovers as He views and enjoys their sexual celebration) Eat, friends; Drink and imbibe deeply, O lovers.”
The book, Song of Solomon, is a love poem between a husband and wife…the book definitely encourages a husband and wife to enjoy the sexual pleasures of one another. It is in this beautiful book that two Scriptures appear which may shed light on the issue of oral sex…
Notice in Song 2:3 that it says, ” . . . and his fruit was sweet to my taste.” Obviously this involves very intimate experience. Tasting one another can have a wide variety of applications. It appears that this is a veiled way of alluding to oral sex. Furthermore, if we look at Song 7:8 we read, “I said, I will climb the palm tree. I will take hold of its fruit stalks. Oh, may your breasts be like clusters of the vine.” Apparently, fondling of the breasts is meant here. If such enjoyment of the body is intended and since tasting (which involves the mouth) is part of that expression, it would seem safe to say that oral sex is permissible.
In the excellent book Intimacy Ignited by Christian leaders Dr. Joe and Linda Dillow and Dr. Peter and Lorraine Pintus, they describe this holy act of oral sex as a “genital caress.” Here’s how they describe it in the book:
Song of Songs 2:3 “Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, So is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, And his fruit was sweet to my taste.
Passion mounts. Solomon and Tirzah are now actively involved in their loveplay. She sits (presumably on cushions in their private chamber) beneath Solomon’s shade, cast perhaps by a lamp in the room, and delights in “tasting his fruit…”
…In other words, she “tastes his sexual embrace. In extrabiblical literature, “fruit” is often equated with the male genitals or with semen. Also, there are many balancing parallels in the Song: what is characteristic of her is also characteristic of him. The “fruit” on her “tree” (Song 7.7-8) is her breasts, so her “fruit” of his “tree” suggests his genitals. If this is so, then this phrase may be a veiled and delicate reference to an oral-genital caress.
Sex is God’s idea, created in His mind no doubt before the foundation of the world itself. Yahweh is in our spirit by the power of the Holy Spirit. Does He run and hide when we Christians have sex and glorious orgasm? Will He check out for a while during the sexual lovemaking and go to Wal-Mart?
No, sir. Not one bit.
As a matter of fact, didn’t God declare to Saul on the road to Damascus that Saul was persecuting God Himself through the Lord’s saints? And that He “felt” and knows our pain of persecution for being His faithful witness even unto death?
Acts 9:4 …and he (Saul) fell to the ground and heard a voice (God) saying to him, “Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting Me?”
Then why wouldn’t God “feel” and know our joy in the ecstasy of a deep sexual celebration?
And He Himself, dear one, revels in the en-joy-ment of the act between those two husband-wife creatures.
His sacred Scriptures declare He is a witness to our sexual celebration as mentioned a bit earlier.
In yet another translation error in our modern Bibles, we find the margin note in the Song of Solomon declare that in chapter 5 and at the end of verse 1 that it’s the “Bridegroom” speaking. Let’s look at it, shall we?
Song of Songs 5:1 “I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh along with my balsam. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk. Eat, friends; drink and imbibe deeply, O lovers.”
In the second verse, the “Bride” begins to speak.
In that first verse the bridegroom, Solomon, makes mention after the fact that he had already come to his “garden,” the luscious body of his bride. He then in metaphor boldly describes gathering parts of her body and also eating with his mouth her honeycomb and honey.
Why, after a past sexual encounter, would the bridegroom then next declare aloud in the present tense to ‘eat friends; drink and imbibe deeply, O lovers.’
In makes absolutely no sense, does it?
That’s because, beloved, some translator(s) way-back-when was no doubt embarrassed with the fact that God was there watching the sex all along and actually speaking to the lovers!
Yep, that’s our God. Not one iota of being a sexual prude like the embarrassed translator(s). Again, sex is His idea. Go God! Yes, indeed.
This is how the verse should read:
Song of Songs 5:1 The Bridegroom speaking: “I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh along with my balsam. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk.”
God speaking: “Eat, friends; drink and imbibe deeply, O lovers.”
Now, I did not discover this fact, saints, but through the wonderful contemporary Christian resources written that precede our own revelation of this divine fact. There are a multitude of them available to us. Hallelujah!
Are you still with me so far?
Good. Let’s get to it, then…
But even more basic is this: why kiss anything?
Take a step back and look at it objectively. Kissing seems a bit strange now, doesn’t it?
Why would a human being take a body part that is used to ingest food for survival, to speak, to spit, etc, also mysteriously use it to kiss another being?
In God’s Word, we don’t see a reference to a kiss until Genesis 27 when a nearly blind Isaac asks his son to kiss him.
Did Adam kiss Eve? Did God explain to Adam beforehand that a kiss was indeed proper and right? Did Adam just instinctively know it by design?
Where could he, or did he, kiss her?
On her lips? On her ears? On her neck?
On her breasts?
Was that all?
Did Eve open her mouth to receive Adam’s tongue in what we moderns call a “French kiss?” Is there any of us reading this that haven’t at one point experienced this spine tingling pleasure?
Why kiss like this at all? Well…why not? The marriage bed is undefiled, and kissing on the mouth is clearly “biblical.”
Were there perhaps other body parts he kissed?
And what of our sister Eve? Did she reciprocate in kind?
Ladies, what do you think she did? Gentlemen, how do or should our wives respond to our gracious and holy amorous and erotic advances?
Did he kiss her then too during their final sexual celebration in the conception of both Cain and Able?
To those of us that know well the power and joy of married sexual celebration, all these questions seem ridiculous, no?
Then why would you or me or anyone question the idea that an oral genital caress is prohibited in the eyes of our Lord any more than a caress to a mouth, an ear, a neck, or a breast?
Why not just refrain from kissing everything?
Because our God is a God of pleasure. And He loves His married creatures to enjoy their pleasure too! He is involved in all things with us since He lives in our spirit. We are designed to please Him in all respects…
Colossians 1:9-12 For this reason also, since the day we heard of it, we have not ceased to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might, for the attaining of all steadfastness and patience; joyously giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in Light.
Even in the current ‘anything goes’ modern culture, there is a large contingent of believers who refuse to see the obvious here. They are a throwback to stifled sexual ways even in the face of overwhelming evidence.
Let’s take a look at some objections.
Objection: “The vagina is full of germs.” Answer: Actually, this opposite is true. There is many more ‘germs’ in the mouth, and the mouth is a major organ used in the expression of affection to others. You may read a short article by a female gynecologist Doctor about the cleanliness of the healthy vagina here.
Objection: “A man’s semen is just mucus.” Answer: Not so. Medically speaking, semen is full of healthy materials. It is a holy and healthy fluid designed by God for the procreation of His kingdom. Sexual pleasure and reproduction was the first ‘work’ He gave to His creatures, even before tending the garden. Sounds good to me! You too?
Objection: “I was sexually assaulted as a young person.” Answer: Your God has created you as a new creature. That old person is dead. Buried. Your new person has been resurrected to new life. Do not freeze out your spouse in this wonderful area, nor deny them the pleasure due them. Get help. Be delivered. Read Marie Robinson’s book here.
My personal experience with oral sex began as a young unsaved college student in the basement of a woman’s dorm with my first real girlfriend. It was a complete surprise. She also swallowed my semen after ejaculation.
The act was so full of pleasure I can’t even describe it. I didn’t ask it of her, for she willingly serviced me in this new area. She fully enjoyed it and told me so. She especially enjoyed my reaction to her sexual love in this fashion. And eventually I reciprocated. Remember I wasn’t saved at the time and this was sinful fornication.
This practice was then carried over into my married life, and became a holy act of sexual love and celebration. Of course, make sure we’re clean and ready for a genital caress, oral sex.
Husbands almost universally love oral sex. Many wives do as well.
A Christian teacher once said:
It would be wrong if it were prohibited in the Bible. It would be wrong if it were unnatural. It would be wrong if it were unhealthy or, that is, harmful. It would be wrong if it were unkind.
Oral sex is none of these.
Sex is God’s idea, and it is a supreme gift from Him. He enjoys and takes pleasure in our sexual celebration. He is there with us. Let’s thank Him…and enjoy everything He so graciously created!
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